14 I possess good advice and sound wisdom;[a]
I have understanding and strength. (Proverbs 8:14 CSB)

There has been much written about speaking to ourselves with positive, affirming words. There is value in this as far to often I find people berate themselves for past bad decisions.

There is a process we should go through to acknowledge when we have made a bad decision or sinned. Confess what we have done, ask for forgiveness (be that to man or God or both) and then we must move on.

We should learn from our mistakes and not let the past darken our future. At this point we can either make progress or we make excuses.